Unchurched friend #1

- Are you actively attending any church?

No

- What are a few issues or topics that impact/interest you?

The environment and human trafficking interest me. Seeing unfortunate people impacts me because it makes me grateful for what I have, and ignorant people impact me because they make me want to learn more. 

- Why do you think most people don't attend church?

I think people don't go because they were not exposed to it when they were younger. Now that they are older, they are afraid of what they will find. Mainly I think it is the fear of the unknown. 

- If you were looking for a church to attend, what kinds of things would you look for?

If I were looking for a church, I'd look for one that looks welcoming and makes me feel at ease. 

- What advice can you give to pastors who really want to be helpful to people?

They should not pressure people to believe what they believe in. Instead, they can suggest things that should allow the person to decide what to believe. Basically don't put pressure on people or be aggressive because that can scare a person off. Also being trustworthy and acting like a friend helps make a person feel comfortable to share personal tidbits so that the pastor can help. 

I am surprised by what my friend told me. It seems like what she is looking for in a church is exactly what our churches are trying to achieve. Most churches are trying to be user-friendly and welcoming to all people. Some succeed and others do not in being user-friendly. What my friend is looking for in a church is very reasonable I think. For someone who does not have experience in a church, it makes sense to want a church that will welcome them and help them to grow.